Writing Ads for Personals

If you find that writing an ad for personals presents a challenge, please read on. The following tips might help you simplify the process. Making acquaintances is an age-old art. Doing it online is just a new venue. Finding your own match online is the new dance in town. You have to know the basic step if you want to swing it.

Check other people personals

Before you start writing an ad for personals, browse the profiles of other members. Pay special attention to those profiles and members who impress you. Take a look at the personal ads of those who are searching for the same sub-group that you are interested in (your competitors) and see if you can learn from the way they expressed themselves.

To Whom It May Concern

Always remember that your ad may leave a different impression than your intention, or may be understood differently by different people. Listen to your inner thoughts out loud. Be in tune with your own personality, your traits and your style so your profile will clearly portray who you are. Those who will read your profile, naturally, will want to know who you are. Make sure that you provide them with a glimpse of your true self.

My favorite approach to writing an ad for personals is: Directly address my profile to the person I want to meet. So, I write it to a very close friend, who I havent met yet, but, who I intend to meet.

A good personal ad is measured, not by the total number of responses, but by the number of responses received from members that you selected. A good profile attracts those members who it is intended for, and at the same time, it helps filter out those members that are not your type. Therefore, the rule is: when you filter out the negatives, you attract the positives.

How Long My Personal Ad Should Be?

One of the advantages of online dating is that you can lengthen your message with content and style. Write about yourself and about those things that are really part of your life and are greatly important to you. Whether its a commitment to your friends, your family, your Church, write about it. If you are passionate about arts, sports or social issues, make sure that it echoes in your profile. Write about your passions because they are what you are made of.

Even if your life lacks great events, a lot can be learned about you and your sensitivity from the way that you express yourself about everyday life events. A family photo can be much more sensitive and powerful than a photo of the Amazon rainforest. Most of you can attest to that.

Most members feel comfortable with a profile of 250-350 words, but there is no cut and dry formula that determines what the proper length should be. Most likely the right length of your profile will be whatever you feel comfortable with. Remember, the proper length of an ad for personals is one that brings the desired responses.

I am very funny

Many of your qualities will be obvious without spelling them out. For example: if you attached your photo to your personal ad, and write down how you look, it will be your photo that will make the stronger impact. Or, if your profile will be very funny, the readers will remember that. By writing down (explicitly)I am very funny that will have a much lesser impact of you as a funny person. Speaking about funny things or writing jokes in profiles do not always come off positively. So unless you are comfortable with expressing yourself in writing, think twice before you add a joke to your profile.

Ask your friend

Ask a close friend to read your personal ad and to respond honestly. Ask him or her if this profile really portrays you at your best. He or she can act as a mirror and tell you how your personal ad looks and sounds. From my experience it is amazing how much we can learn about our profile from our friends feedback.